情けは人の為ならずなさけはひとのためならずことわざcompassion is not for other people's benefitthe good you do for others is good you do yourself
我が身をつねって人の痛さを知れわがみをつねってひとのいたさをしれことわざpinch yourself and know others' painwalk a mile in other's shoes to understand their suffering
人の蠅を追うより己の蠅を追えひとのはえをおうよりおのれのはえをおえことわざtake care of yourself before you take care of otherswave off your own flies before you wave off someone else's flies
人を怨むより身を怨めひとをうらむよりみをうらめことわざit is easier to blame than do betterinstead of resenting others, resent yourself